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Why not man up and be an actual parent and talk to him about what's concerning you instead of being shady, which does nothing but cause strife?
Let's not judge. The OP may already have spoken to his son and still need to MONITOR, that sounds better, yes... monitor his son's 'pod.
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Let's not judge. The OP may already have spoken to his son and still need to MONITOR, that sounds better, yes... monitor his son's 'pod.
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I'm gonna disagree somewhat. You may not always be physically close to the kid and the technology. I have cameras in my home that let me see my kids when I'm away. Some may call that spying and the 14 year old is watching the 4-year old. The principle is the same. I used to 'monitor' my stepdaughters laptop while I was at work and she was home. It sounds like you may be suggesting that I shouldn't do that and instead wait until I came home and make surprise inspections or something. She finally learned to behave BECAUSE she thought I might be watching since the preferable reasons were not enough for her. Now, she's a kid, but you can't always be physically on top of them. An iPod? I wouldn't bother with that too much but I don't know the kid or the situation.
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I don't think there's any issue with adults monitoring kids devices...in fact, if you look at my post, it kind of implied that by saying that a parent is privy to anything their child is doing...not just on the devices, but with ANYTHING really. I think you have every right to remotely monitor anything you want...camera system, computers, etc...you name it, that is your right.
But here's the kicker...the OP specifically said "How do I spy on my son?" This is a different scenario...and let's be honest, with all the idiocy we see in this sub-forum, what's the difference between asking this and asking "How do I spy on my wife?" or "How do I spy on my employees?" There's really none. It's the principal...and the defined difference between a parent who is monitoring their child, and a parent who wants to spy on their child.
And we may hold different ideas on how such things should play out...I'm more of a direct approach kind of person. If I think something is wrong, I don't hem haw...perhaps it comes from being a cop, but I like to think that direct access is a right of any parent when it comes to their children, but I also like to think that an adult of any kind (parent or not) would be intelligent and mature enough to consider "spying" on people a bit silly (in this type of situation)...when there are so many other options.
Sorry, but I'm going to judge away. What's the point of spying on a kid? This is a conversation I had with my brother (who has 4 kids) a couple of years ago when a similar curiosity came to his brain and his son's both had an iPod Touch. These are your children...if you're curious what they are looking at or what they are getting into on these devices, go ask to see the device and look at it WITH them...if there is something inappropriate or what you consider wrong, talk to the kid about it, don't sit and spy on them.
This anti-social approach is such a hilarious thing to me. Adults taking childish tactics against CHILDREN...really? If my son or daughter wanted a device that was capable of the things that iPhones/iPads/iPods are capable of...they're also going to have the understanding that privacy is something you earn, not something you're entitled to, and that as a child, I'm privy to ANYTHING that is happening in their world...from a simple text message to what kind of living environment their friends exist in.
"How can I spy on my son?"...it's a cowards move. And if a child does something that needs monitoring in such a way, remove the outlet or limit the outlet.
"Ask to see the device"? Oh heck no! I'm not asking for jack! My kids know that they have no absolute privacy rights in our home. Period. I will go through everything they have, if necessary, and they know it because we've made it crystal clear....lol
How can I spy on my son's iPod?
I could not have said it any better instead of driving him away rather than getting closer with a heart tot heart. Thank you Sean...Same thoughts as me.Why not man up and be an actual parent and talk to him about what's concerning you instead of being shady, which does nothing but cause strife?
What happened to the kitchen table talks?
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