i have aol can i do it with that?
Why don't you try an app that sends a push notification when email arrives to an iMap server. I use Gmail and I have used a little app that was 99 cents that sends my iPhone a push notification alert when a new mail arrives on the server. Then I can just launch the mail app and get my mail.
Personally, I would ditch the AOL email and use Gmail. Just have AOL autoforward your mail to gmail. Then you can use the push gmail MS exchange services.
Hope this helps.
Mike