No, buying a peripheral for a game is not very common at all, that was a rather lousy example where the majority of iOS users will never encounter your specific issue or issues at all.
You keep bringing up “a lot of people” for your own anecdotal examples. Or are you speaking for a group of people?
You want iOS notifications to be more like android but you don’t want iOS copying android.
That’s the thing I don’t believe iOS needs more robust controls for notification, there is no point. I would rather apple work on multiple user support, or more robust privacy features for iOS, similar to what they did with Sign In with Apple and not waste resources developing granular controls that can be solved by switching off notifications for the app.
And as you said you prefer the notifications on android, good for you, enjoy your android device, no need to turn iOS into an android clone. Different users different features different experiences.