There are so many different versions that differ from the official google recommended settings. Can anyone link me to a recent, 2011 version of someone's recommended settings?
If it is a standard @gmail.com account, entering your email and password into the Mail app will set everything up for you. No need to even look for instructions.
But gmail's recommended settings go against mail.app's default setup when you do as you said
You can also set up gmail as exchange if you want to sync multiple calendars. Just google exchange setup.
This is on the OSX Mail.app, not the iOS mail client.