1. iMore Question's Avatar
    My son has an iPhone 5s and he is using various text messaging apps with his friends. How can i monitor his phone usage without manhandling it?
    01-30-2016 10:15 PM
  2. Ledsteplin's Avatar
    Do you suspect foul play or wrongdoing? You're the adult! Just take the phone and look at it!
    01-30-2016 10:36 PM
  3. Sherry_B's Avatar
    My kids are too old for this now, but I did run across this some time back. Perhaps it will help you.

    https://start.uknowkids.com/mobile-phone-monitoring

    We did use Life 360 for quite some time with them, although it does not monitor text messages. They knew it was on their phones, and they knew if they turned it off or did not use the "I'm safe and checking in" feature when they were supposed to... they'd lose their phones for a week. I checked in with them, and they checked in with me. We all knew were each other was at. All the time. Up front and out in the open.

    https://www.life360.com
    01-30-2016 11:32 PM
  4. Smply_Rckless's Avatar
    If u purchased the phone, yank his *** up & take it. My parents did lol
    01-31-2016 01:04 AM
  5. Ledsteplin's Avatar
    If u purchased the phone, yank his *** up & take it. My parents did lol
    Yeah, but you deserved it!
    01-31-2016 07:15 AM
  6. SprSynJn's Avatar
    We didn't have cell phones when I was a kid...
    Soapm likes this.
    01-31-2016 07:45 AM
  7. robertk328's Avatar
    Do you suspect foul play or wrongdoing? You're the adult! Just take the phone and look at it!
    Just for fun:

    http://www.wfaa.com/story/news/crime...hone/79355512/
    01-31-2016 10:16 AM
  8. NexusGirlX's Avatar
    My son has an iPhone 5s and he is using various text messaging apps with his friends. How can i monitor his phone usage without manhandling it?
    Just curious, how old is your son?
    02-01-2016 09:38 AM
  9. mayconvert's Avatar
    We told our daughter that as long as she lived under our roof, we had her passcode to the phone and passwords to her facebook and other accounts. (emails etc.)
    Until she got a job and paid for her Own phone.

    it worked well for us.

    We would see 15 year old kids taking pictures of their bag of weed and bongs etc because those kids parents didn't "do" facebook.

    Of course we are old school. we didn't care if we were our kids friends. we did what was best for them even if they "hated" us for it.

    Now that she is in her mid 20's, she thanks us for it. Of course at the time, she sure didn't like it. lol
    Eillasa and pkcable like this.
    02-01-2016 10:35 AM
  10. Smply_Rckless's Avatar
    Yeah, but you deserved it!
    Lol, just a little bit
    02-01-2016 11:36 AM
  11. Michelle Haag's Avatar
    My son is 15 and he knows full well that I have full access to his phone and anything that happens on it. I bought the phone, I pay the bill, and I'm still his mom. Granted, I don't pry unless I have reason to, and every time I've checked in on things it's been all good.
    02-01-2016 04:47 PM
  12. Just_Me_D's Avatar
    My son is 15 and he knows full well that I have full access to his phone and anything that happens on it. I bought the phone, I pay the bill, and I'm still his mom. Granted, I don't pry unless I have reason to, and every time I've checked in on things it's been all good.
    Now that's what I'm talking about....
    02-01-2016 08:09 PM
  13. Rob Phillips's Avatar
    My son is 15 and he knows full well that I have full access to his phone and anything that happens on it. I bought the phone, I pay the bill, and I'm still his mom. Granted, I don't pry unless I have reason to, and every time I've checked in on things it's been all good.
    You should teach a class. I'd send my wife.
    Soapm and mayconvert like this.
    02-01-2016 08:19 PM
  14. Michelle Dowler's Avatar
    You can use iKeyMonitor to spy his text messages. However, you must manually install it on the target phone.
    02-01-2016 09:50 PM
  15. Rob Phillips's Avatar
    You can use iKeyMonitor to spy his text messages. However, you must manually install it on the target phone.
    The phone also has to be jailbroken.
    02-01-2016 09:58 PM
  16. Soapm's Avatar
    We didn't have cell phones when I was a kid...
    And Dad's phone sat right by him in the living room, you had to sit there and talk if you wanted to use HIS phone.
    02-01-2016 10:01 PM
  17. WaveGod's Avatar
    Don't be that person
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    02-06-2016 09:11 AM
  18. Sherry_B's Avatar
    It's not really up to us to tell the OP how to parent. We can tell him how we've handled it based on our experiences as parents though.
    scruffypig likes this.
    02-06-2016 09:19 AM
  19. asmcbrian's Avatar
    Hi there! A fellow parent would surely understand your dilemma here. While others would say this is not proper or that it is completely unethical to 'spy' on your child's phone, but as parents, we only want what's best for them and their safety. Surely, we don't want them to get to any trouble. Spying your child's phone is very possible since there are many apps that could do this. However, not all apps are the same. Some apps would still need for you to get hold of them phone to install and activate it. Gladly, I found some apps that would allow you to spy on your child's cellphone activity without needing to get hold of his phone. If both of you are using iPhones, all it needs is your Cloud ID. But if you're using Android, it might take a long shot or process to do this but better safe than sorry, right? But if your child is open-minded, maybe you can sit and talk things out or maybe ask for his permission that you'll be putting that app on his phone. Let him understand it is for his safety. Hope this helps.
    07-11-2017 11:46 PM
  20. Wotchered's Avatar
    These discussions concern me, I don't like the control freak feeling about them, and am never sure when this behaviour is just sheer nosiness or even paranoia. The one thing I am absolutely sure of,is that any behaviour you wish your children not to do,and monitor for, they will do without your knowledge, or even having an inkling about it , if they really WANT TO !! The community of smart kids is very smart.
    That aside, your children have the right to make mistakes by themselves, my three did and they're as ok as anyone else, I did and am fine, anyone that didn't is either unnatural or a liar. Do not spy on your kids, they'll find out and resent it,or if they know already,circumvent it. Give your kids some privacy.
    07-12-2017 09:42 AM

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