If you were insulted by my comment I apologize...but I also suggest you grow some thicker skin, because my response to you was quite civil.
You're curious why Apple didn't offer pre-orders, and that's a legitimate curiosity...I'm in the same boat with you in that, curious whether it was because of network problems they've seen before, historic overcrowding of their retail stores and carrier stores, or maybe, like others have hypothesized, they just wanted to make the lines visually impressive (though to me, this one makes the least sense because they have that kind of crowd every year regardless).
I think my initial (and continued) retort is based on your title, which indicates that Apple did something wrong...and within that, trying to deduce why you had this idea...in the end I could only come up with the idea that you were going to be upset that you might not get a phone on opening day, so you feel Apple has wronged you in that sense. Now we all have opinions, and that is fine, you're welcome to yours as much as I am to mine...but you went on and on and on about how you might not get a phone because they didn't offer pre-orders and in the end, you did sound like a whining child that didn't get his way (you said it, not me...I feel "pissy" is a bit more polite than associating you with a child's temper tantrum, but take it however you like it).
In the end...you revert to the "Maybe I'll think twice before asking for help or expressing my opinion..."...COME ONNNNNN...stop being so dramatic. Take a break from the internet and come back when you're in a better mood. We'll talk about theories on why Apple didn't do pre-orders on the 5S at that time, when we can do it from a logical stance and not one trying to point a finger of fault.
Not every move is a mistake when it doesn't suit your personal needs. My niece tends to throw temper tantrums when she doesn't get what she wants, but within those tantrums, some logical questions do arise at times, and part of communication (proper communication anyways) is figuring out how to do this without the emotional baggage. Here, you had a good question, shrouded in a bunch of finger pointing and sob story...I think that is where your problem was.