I'm in the same boat, I looked pretty hard at the Note 10+ but after reading that there are currently about 25-30 apps on Google app store infected with malware, I decided to stick with Apple. I'm probably going to just sell my XS Max. Another reason I chose not to go back to Android was all the bloat ware that Verizon and Samsung packs on these devices right out of the box. Most of these devices also have hidden apps that continuously download little trial apps that you have to keep removing, though this little gem of an app can be disabled. Here's the article about the malware.
https://www.fastcompany.com/90401854...apps-right-now