Need help with my Calendar!!!

[trailracer618]

I have a calendar that I have shared with my wife, she has one that she has shared with me. We used to get an alert each time an event was added, changed, or deleted. This is no longer happening. All the toggle switches appear to be correct, we have both updated our OS (this was happening before then though), rebooted, etc. I even tried to create an new calendar, but still not getting the alerts.
The events do show up in the calendars, but we are just not getting the alert that the event was added to the calendar, and this is crucial for us.

Please help!!!

 

[bamf-hacker]

Go to the Calendar app, then hit Calendars at the bottom.

Click the i next to the shared calendar then turn on Show Changes.

 

[bamf-hacker]

While you are there mine as well scroll down and make sure Event Alerts are on too

 

[trailracer618]

I already have both of those turned on on both phones.