ok well i got rid of it
i went ahead and tried to install the update. the weird part is it acted like it was going to load, over 3G! anyways, at one point it went into recovery mode (cable & itunes logo) so i just simply did a tethered boot and all is good!
edit: i just realized i made the 43000th post in the
Jailbreak and Unlock Forum. what do i win?