1. sugar04's Avatar
    This past Saturday night, while on a romantic night away, my husband received 2 subsequent text message alerts at 4am, and then when I checked it, primarily because we left our 3 little kids at home for the first time, I couldn't find anything. When I asked him about it, he said he saw nothing and it must have been my phone. His phone has done this before in the middle of the night, and I noticed he did not bring it upstairs last night. I tried to take a peek at it and could not see anything. He has also been complaining about his battery life being so short lately. I wonder if he has jailbroken it to hide sms, but I have no idea how to check this out---PLEASE HELP.
    10-18-2010 01:54 PM
  2. Slyfi's Avatar
    ok quick question,

    did you hear the text tone or did it vibrate twice with about 2 seconds in between?
    10-18-2010 02:00 PM
  3. The_New_Dude#IM's Avatar
    Tell him ur interested in a 3some and see how quickily he suggests someone....

    My 2 cents!
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    10-18-2010 02:05 PM
  4. sugar04's Avatar
    heard the text tone. Nothing in preview and nothing in his messages folder.
    10-18-2010 02:05 PM
  5. sugar04's Avatar
    thanks The_New_Dude...
    10-18-2010 02:06 PM
  6. sugar04's Avatar
    this is upsetting for me, please serious replies only
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    10-18-2010 02:07 PM
  7. Slyfi's Avatar
    some apps use the text tone (i imagine its the tri tone one), but they would show a notification, but that wouldn't show up in messages
    10-18-2010 02:08 PM
  8. BLiNK's Avatar
    please tell me there are other reasons than this you are having doubts in your relationship...
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    10-18-2010 02:08 PM
  9. VagrantHarmonist's Avatar
    Well for one, you can check if an app called cydia is anywhere on his homescreens or in a folder and if it is, then he's definitely jailbroken. I don't recall any app that hides text messages...but if it is jailbroken, it could be a weird glitch in an app he does have because I've heard my phone make an alert once or twice randomly for no reason. I hope he's not cheating but, to be certain, you can check those signs if you are truly concerned.
    10-18-2010 02:13 PM
  10. sugar04's Avatar
    BLiNK...you know we have a generally WONDERFUL relationship (married 7 years). THe last two years have been very difficult with 2 children being born with severe illness...right after our last family vacation he started an argument saying he needed a break and stayed the night away at a friend's house and then there have been other SMALL inconsistencies lately. Daughter hurt herself badly and had to get in touch with him and story changed about why he did not answer phone for an hour (first out of range, then it was dead, and told me he had 13 missed calls in the hour)etc. I have never doubted him before and love him and PRAY I am wrong! Just feels wrong. Too many inconsistencies lately.
    10-18-2010 02:15 PM
  11. sugar04's Avatar
    SLyfi, it would show a notification....hmmm I did not see anything at all and he even said, well there is nothing. He is generally very stingy about sharing his phone and has been even more so lately.
    Last edited by sugar04; 10-18-2010 at 02:20 PM. Reason: add something
    10-18-2010 02:19 PM
  12. sugar04's Avatar
    Sorry for so many posts I am new to this SLyfi, where would I find it if he had received a 'hidden' message that was not on his messages?
    10-18-2010 02:21 PM
  13. The_New_Dude#IM's Avatar
    Well messages can be deleted. It takes a few seconds to delete the message after you have read it.

    I hate to put more doubt in your mind, but I'm just stating what's possible.
    10-18-2010 02:23 PM
  14. sugar04's Avatar
    I appreciate that it can be deleted, but he was sleeping and did not even hear it. We had a couple of drinks together so he was out. I heard them and was the first one to check. He did not even hear me check, so I don't think that is viable. Thanks so much for the suggestion.
    10-18-2010 02:27 PM
  15. The_New_Dude#IM's Avatar
    In that case I wouldn't doubt him for the sake of doubting him.
    He's your husband, give him your trust.

    Don't doubt him unless you have something concrete to go on. You will be much happier in the long run.
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    10-18-2010 02:32 PM
  16. sugar04's Avatar
    Is it normal for the iphone 3gs to just alert of text messages in the middle of the night and there be nothing? Twice Sat night and once before. I feel awful doubting him, but don't want to be stupid either. He has been a wonderful husband and we had a great weekend together, but as I mentioned there have been some unusual inconsistencies lately for sure.
    10-18-2010 02:34 PM
  17. The_New_Dude#IM's Avatar
    Sometimes guys do it just cause they don't think you will accept what they are really doing....

    I've told my GF that i'm at work before when I was really out having a pint with my Boys. Just cause she might feel bad that I'm out with the boys and not with her.... Just giving you an example.

    You said you have kids. Maybe he just needed some quiet time away from everyone and made something up to tell you.

    And if he IS cheating and doing such a good job of hiding the text messages etc, I'm sure he would've taken the last step and made sure the message tone would've been disabled too.... My take on it...
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    10-18-2010 02:39 PM
  18. Slyfi's Avatar
    @sugar what i was saying is it might have been an app sending a notification that would sound like a text message

    the facebook app does it
    10-18-2010 02:45 PM
  19. sugar04's Avatar
    I appreciate that---he really is wonderful. The night our daughter hurt herself (she's 2, had to rush her to emerg--didn't want to bring the 4 year old and 10 month old). HE was going for a beer with his friends after work (often works late), so I assumed he would still be at work. I called a million times panicked and it would ring and then I would get his voicemail after several rings. He told me he was out of range. Then a month later, he told me he was at a certain job site as we drove past (DEFINITELY IN RANGE) and then told me again about it that his battery was dead out of the blue when I asked about the text messages. I did not doubt him when our daughter hurt herself---

    My take is that he forgot to turn the message tone off because he had had a couple of drinks??? I notice that his phone has been on vibrate since.

    I SOOO hope I am wrong--we have a good life together.
    10-18-2010 02:48 PM
  20. The_New_Dude#IM's Avatar
    Yeah I really don't think he's cheating on you. If he was cheating on you he'd be volunteering to take out the trash, do dishes, change the kids, etc, ALL the time.

    I think you have had a few incidents that are just making you think that. Which can be justifiable, but don't let those things get the better of you.

    In most of your posts you have said that you two have a good life together. Don't doubt it. He has no reason to stray!
    10-18-2010 02:53 PM
  21. sugar04's Avatar
    Thank you!
    10-18-2010 02:56 PM
  22. The_New_Dude#IM's Avatar
    Happy to help!
    10-18-2010 02:57 PM
  23. Jellotime91's Avatar
    Sometimes I get a notification from facebook or two and I think they are texts when they aren't. If you didn't see anything incriminating on the lock screen before you unlocked the phone, I wouldn't be too suspicious about it. Like someone else said, he's your husband. Innocent until proven guilty is how I'd play this one...

    Best of luck with your marriage though, and I hope he doesn't have anything to hide.
    10-18-2010 03:09 PM
  24. ghostface147's Avatar
    Jeez, since when are we the marriage counselors.
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    10-18-2010 03:18 PM
  25. sugar04's Avatar
    THANKS guys...neither of us are on facebook???
    10-18-2010 03:19 PM
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