Re: who is the Dad of the year? i am.
Looks like somebody doesn't have so much of a life after all... Just for your information, he would not try it, he would succeed to it. THEN only would he get arrested. You, on the other hand, wouldn't have so much of nothing to be conscious for anymore.
Originally Posted by iSmileyFace
Kids certainly aren't entitled to everything... but I'm not so sure parents are always so righteous. For some, if their kids do good its all because they are such good parents... but when their kids do bad, they sure don't know how that could happen - surely some bad influence outside of home is messing with their mind. Others, like my dad was, are really though parents, and that gives you a couple of lessons in life. But when I used to try and speak to him about what I wanted to do later, he would turn me down and say that I should do otherwise. That it was a stupid mistake to try and earn a life this way. To pay for those studies that wouldn't bring me nothing. So he eventually forced me into a program I did not like - he was paying for it, and I was raised to respect my parents decision - and I eventually dropped off. I was an adult by then. Finally studied in my domain, by my own means, and I was really good at it... but it was just too late. I had a girlfriend, a life to pay for, and soon a kid on the way... I tried to manage, but I eventually gave up school altogether and started to work more to earn this life. Crappy job. Hard times... Eventually found a better job, and I'm quite at ease now, considering where I come from not three years ago. I love my dad, and I really believe he did his best - but I sure won't thank him for that part of my education. I'd like to go back to school, but my girlfriend is epileptic, and most of the household is on my shoulders now when it comes to money, because the less she works the less she's stressed, and the less she falls face down on the floor and break her teeth in - which really happened, among others such terrible moments, some of which I tried but could not prevent my daughter to witness. Same reason why I agreed to have kids so soon - you don't deny such a sweet girl as my girlfriend the only thing she ever really wanted in life when you saw her face go purple and her lips go grey on a couple occasions, and could do nothing more than hope the seizure would diminish enough for her to be able to recover her breath again - and yes, btw, I know all the drill about it, and still it's not any guarantee to lie her down on her side and hold her just enough so she doesn't trash her head and limbs all over the place and hurt herself more. So... My dad is a man bigger and stronger than me, who made more of a life at my age that I probably ever will, and yet I'm not afraid to say that I think I'm a greater man than he is, and he sure as hell has got little to do with who I became - unless you consider downplaying me all my life and not being there a good education. He's enough of a good man, and did enough for me and my brother (he never deserted us, and worked all his life to provide us with the necessary and then some), for me to still love him as much as I did as a kid, but that's really all I can say without lying. He was a hard, really hard man, and not always for the better.
Condescending adults are a plague, too. When I look at my little girl, I can see that the things that "annoy" me the most about her character are things I dislike about my own... And the marvelous things she does, I'm not always so sure that I have all that much to do with it, except trying to be there for her. One way or another, I just try not to mix what I think and what I feel with what I consider the best thing to do to help her grow up at that moment. IMHO, a parent can only do so much as push kids in the right direction... it's them that walk the path, not us. Their skills and personnality are not ours, but we sure can help them grow. Their faults, however, I won't so readily pretend we got nothing to do with...
Which doesn't change a thing to the fact that they are not entitled to any thing unless they learn to deserve it. Not because I don't wish sometimes I could get her what she wants even if she did not deserve it - I love her so much, in all absolute I don't care about what she deserves or not - but because I know it won't help her a bit. I don't think I deserve those things more than her - you can say all what you want, but at the end of the day, YOU decided to have kids, not them. It's not because I paid for the iPad that she doesn't get to use it just as much as I do. Not because I pay for the house that she should be the one doing all the chores while I sit my *** off. When that time will come, she'll do some, my girlfriend and I will do the rest. Kids are entitled love, but something else, too - to be kids, and hopefully remain kids as long as that crude world will allow them to. Not spoiled brat kids - but kids nevertheless.
One last thing... when I was a kid, my parents did not go around with cool things like iPhones at hand at all times. In fact, WE had the "cool things" - the SNES and what else. What were toys back then are now parents property - its dads that have XBOX and PS3, moms that have laptops and tablets. Here again, you can say what you want about teenagers thinking they're entitled to have a phone, but we sure as hell don't help with that. My mother-in-law bought my daughter a little calculator the other day. Because the buttons are flat and rounded squares, she likes to think it's an iPhone. She was going around talking in it, and saying it was her iPhone 5. She's not even five yet. I wasn't entitled to all what my parents had when I was young. But nothing they had - apart the money to pay things, and permissions, and drive a car - I wanted anyway. It was boring adult things. Not so easy to say that about what parents use today...