My friend, I do believe most of the board is experiencing the exact same thing.
There are numerous threads, though, where you can keep up with everyone's status, those who preordered, that is. Yes, some folks are getting shipping notices, but it doesn't necessarily mean they will have it sooner, or that there's a problem with your order if you haven't received a shipping notice yet. I assure you, if you preordered early Friday morning (before 10am, I hear), then you'll receive your shipment on the 14th by the end of the day. Some are quoting between the 14th an 21st. Either way, you'll have your new device in your hands this week I imagine.
Here's the link to the official tracking thread: http://forums.tipb.com/iphone-4s-for...ng-thread.html - if you post questions and updates there, you are sure to get help from many of the forum's veteran iOS device users.